the story of us…
The idea popped out of nowhere, and suddenly I decided to write a story about my current relationship. I want everyone to know the story of us. It’s unfair to others who are affected by our relationship to not know the truth; all the more unfair for me to not share my side of the story. So here it goes…
The first encounter
The first time I met ‘Two Town’ was afternoon of November 16th 2011 in Hotel Valencia; my boss, the current branch head of Valencia branch (at that moment) and I were waiting for him for more than 3 hours. When he arrived at the Hotel, I wasn’t really paying attention to him. I was just minding my own business as they talked about work. I was currently in a relationship with ‘Mr. Auditor’ while ‘Two Town’ is (still up to now) in a relationship with ‘Maria’. At first, I really don’t like ‘Two Town’ since he always pick on me. He’ll tease me about my monobrow, my hideous feet, my tan skin, my small boobs & butt, my crooked teeth and many more! But I’ve realized that he’s only doing that to get my attention and eventually I got used to it and I wasn’t irritated anymore. I was his first friend at work. He’d ask for my assistance and I’d help him out. He’d tell hilarious stories and we’d laugh about it. He’d also share about his previous employment and what the situation was back from where he came from. We’d text each other once in a while and that’s how our friendship started.
Fun runs and Movie Dates
There have been so many fun run events during the first quarter of this year; my officemates and I were into it. I invited a lot of people including ‘Two Town’. The truth is, I didn’t expect him to attend the fun run because 1.) CDO is 4 hours away from Valencia, 2.) It’s quite pricy for him since he has to pay for the registration, transportation, meals, accommodation and what not, 3.) He’s not familiar with the places in CDO. I was surprised when he registered for the first time.
The first time we ran together was the weekend after his birthday. He treated me over lunch at Mooon café and after that he asked me out to watch a movie and we watched the ‘girl with the dragon tattoo’. We’d see each other every weekend. We’d do the same things, run-go Malling-lunch-movies. It has been our own way of getting to know each other. <3
Training and Night outs
Every time there’s training in CDO, we’d hang out in a group and sometimes, just the two of us. Whenever we hang-out together, we’d talk about personal things. He told me about his other relationships before and during his relationship with ‘Maria’. He told me that his current relationship will not last because of the differences in their religious beliefs. He said they’ll eventually break up. I never judged him for his past. I appreciate his honesty and I respect him even more because of that. Every time we talk about it, I’d just listen to him like a good friend would.
We had this training that required us to make a collage about our life. He made a collage about ‘Maria’. I felt jealous and sad from seeing that. We planned to go to Kaamulan in Malaybalay together but I had to rain-check because I got jealous. I know that I was not in the right position to feel jealous since 1.) I was still in a relationship with Mr. Auditor and 2.) ‘Two town’ and I are just good friends, but I realized that I’m very comfortable when I’m with him. He’s being so caring and not judging made me like him more.
There was this one time when his close friend visited Valencia and asked Babe to accompany him and his girlfriend to CDO. ‘Two Town’ asked me to tag along since they are not familiar with the place. (I was already two weeks single by this time because I broke up with Mr. Auditor). That day, I found out that they know someone who also lives in CDO. I was astonished but in a good way. He always asks me to accompany him whenever he’s in CDO; and I just realized that he always chose to be with me over his old friend. <3
It was also that night that I was able to talk to ‘Maria’. She was furious because we always hang out. I understand why she felt that way but I felt offended with how she reacted. I sent her a message that time because I wanted clear things out. I assured her that nothing is going on between ‘Two Town’ and me (because at that time nothing was going on). I also don’t like the idea that her girlfriend is nagging at him about something that isn’t true. I don’t want to ruin our friendship over silly accusation. She apologized for what she did but I never accepted her apology because I felt very offended with her accusations. I know I’m starting to feel too comfortable with him and maybe it’s wrong, maybe not. But there is one thing that I’m sure of: I have no intention in stealing away someone’s boyfriend.
Because of a certain event in our work, we needed to visit Malaybalay and Valencia more often. We went there last March 14, 2012. I wasn’t communicating with ‘Two town’ anymore like the way we used too. When we arrived in Valencia, I wasn’t in my ‘friendly mode’ and I tried avoiding him as much as possible. Later that night, were drinking with our co-workers in a pub. I was drinking tequila and they were drinking san Miguel beer LIGHT. ‘`Maria’ texted me but I didn’t reply. Why would i? I’m not her friend and nor was I Two Town’s baby sitter. (I was still pissed with her rude messages). That night I got drunk and I can’t remember a part of what happened. The only thing that I can remember was that ‘Two Town’ kissed me and I told him I love him. How did that happen? I don’t know but that’s how it started.
Before we continued our relationship, I reminded him that he has a girlfriend. He told me he’ll break up with her but he asked me something. He wants me to wait because he said it’s hard for him to break up with her just like that since they’ve been together for quite some time. Whenever we’re together, he’d focus on me. He’d leave his phone at his apartment; I would ask why and he would say, “dili nako kailangan dalahon akong phone kay nag uban naman ta.” He’d tell me I’m his and I’d ask if he’s mine and he would say, “YES!” We’re just happy together!
Feelings shouldn’t be reasoned out and so does love. It is not meant to be logically explained but should be felt with emotions. And that’s just what I did; I just let my heart fall for him.
Since we are officially going out, ‘Two town’ and I planned to go to Tandag Surigao del Sur over the holy week. We planned that way before something happened between us. I planned to invite my classmates and we’ll stay in Shacene Hotel, instead. He told me to stay at his house and so I did. He introduced me to his family as his “GIRLFRIEND”, nothing beats that feeling, I was on cloud nine. I made “mano” to his mom and dad because he told me to do so. His family was so good to me! His siblings and I get along well and I think it’s because of our similar age. We went to the beach together with his family. We’d stroll around the city. He’d hold my hand tight and made sure I’m alright. That was the best holy week I’ve ever spent so far.
Hold on or Let go?
Being in this relationship made me question my position in his heart; am I the one he loves? He told me he’ll break up with ‘Maria’ but he asked me for some time. He told me that they’ve been together for quite some time and it’s not easy to break-up with her just like that. Though I don’t really understand why he wants to prolong Maria’s agony, I still told him that I’d wait for the time that he’ll live up the things that he said and promised. I don’t know how long I’ll have to wait but I’ll wait. From the book entitled ‘Tuesdays with Morrie’, Mitch Albom said, don’t let go too soon, but don’t hang on too long. I’m not a martyr type, so if Babe is only playing me then I’ll definitely be the one to end our relationship. But as of now, Babe and I will enjoy every moment that we have. I love him so much!